Some of these tips on how to be happy are easy. Some, especially the ones that lead to long-term happiness and wellbeing, need a little spade work.
All these tips are based on hundreds of scientific discoveries.
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1. Express your heart
Nearly all psychologists agree that talking to people about your feelings can have a huge impact on your mood. It depends on what you talk about.
Find a real human being and talk face to face. If you can’t because of the pandemic, phone is better than social media. And video is better than the phone.
Talk about your feelings. Not sports, or politics. If you’re feeling depressed, talk about it! It’s perfectly natural. 39% of Americans say that they are experiencing some sort of depression during the Covid-19 pandemic.
Ask people about how they are doing before you open up. As they say in China, you have two ears and only one mouth.
Practice Active-Responsive listening. It is an amazing way to build deeper relationships. After that, you may find it much easier to express your feelings. This is a funny video about how not to do it.
2. Practice acts of kindness
This is one of the biggest secrets to finding happiness. Small acts of kindness can do wonders. Kindness math is weird. My happiness equation: Happiness = (Acts of kindness)2
Call a relative who lives alone.
Wave and smile at a neighbor (from at least six feet away!)
Express gratitude. That works wonders.
If you need more ideas visit randomactsofkindness.org
3. Keep moving
Great news: Regular exercise has a powerful impact on mood. The bad news (well, it’s not that bad): It takes about two weeks to a month to work. As the days go by your body will begin to generate endorphins, natural “feel happy” opioids. So yes, regular exercise is habit forming!
If you want to boost your mood, exercise for about half an hour at least three days per week.
It doesn’t matter what kind of exercise you do. Depending on your age and fitness, you can walk briskly, jog, do yard work, exercise on the spot, or clean the house! Ask your doctor before doing something challenging.
Aerobic exercise is best if you are fit.
You don’t need to go nuts. Have fun. Changing pace seems to work too.
4. Find your flow
Can you think of a creative activity that is challenging but that you love doing? Many kinds of activities, such as sports, playing an instrument, or writing, can produce the joyful experience of Flow. Like exercise, finding happiness through flow takes a little work. You need to cultivate your skills, step by step.
1. You love doing
2. Is creative
3. Requires skill
It takes a while to cultivate the skills. If you’re in a hurry to find flow, don’t pick brain surgery. Try something like hiking or gardening.
The challenges should fit your skills. If you take up the violin, don’t begin with Rachmaninoff.
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